Thanks, but no thanks
This is to my friends in US,
I understand that you are coming from US on a month visit and will have lotsa things to do. But unless you have a clear intention of meeting me, it doesn’t matter which flight you land, which one will take you to your home town and when you are taking the return flight, etc. I’m not in air ticketing business. Thanks, but no thanks.
Would it make sense to you, if I mail you about the route I’m taking for my office commute everyday?
Typically, you would send your mobile number in a group mail, stating that you will be available and we can talk, meet blah blah. And stupid me would be expecting to meet you and making plans to take you somewhere when we meet.
As the reality pans out, I have to call a couple of times just to speak over phone, and then you just go back to US without even returning a courtesy call sometimes.
I know, all of a sudden some onnu vitta sithappa will call you for lunch, dinner, kaapi, or a just a session of oor vambu making your plans go awry. But if you are really serious about meeting your buddies, do take the trouble to inform about your change in plans midway.
If you think I am not worth all the trouble, do not bother me with your press release itineraries. We all know how busy you are, even without itineraries. Again, thanks but no thanks 
One notable exception was Venkittu sir - He did not bother me with his itineraries but made it a point to stay in touch and meet during his visit.
June 30th, 2007 at 4:59 am
point noted sir!
June 30th, 2007 at 5:26 am
Chakra, only US returns in scope. You needn’t not the point. Echcha thottu azhichudunga..
PK, Pona vaaram naan sodhappinadhu paththi onnum thappa nenaichukkaliye !!
June 30th, 2007 at 6:03 am
edho paavam , paakanumnu aasai irundhu irukkum aana mudiyaama poyirukkum…varum podhu idha paakanum adha pannanumnu dhan varaanga but ivanga veetla koncha naal avanga veetla koncha naal nnu orey whirlwind tour maari irundhuttu poidaraanga. And afterwards , US poyee chey..wanted to see her…wanted to see him nnu korai pattukaraanga…varum podhu evalo sandhoshathoda ellaaraiyum paakanumnu varuvaanga…then the kids fall sick , adunga parents sa vittu irukaadhunga..
Avanga kashtam avangalukku…pesina pesittu..illaina vittutu pogalamey
ofcourse unga good intentions theriyudhu…but I felt there could be another side to the story.
June 30th, 2007 at 6:18 am
sree,
There is always another side to the story. but i dont want to be at the receiving end, atleast not any more! indha madhiri neraya pattaachu!
If they are free on a particular day and just wanna meet, they obviously have my mobile number. If they are not serious of meeting me, i need not even know whether they are in india or US.
nalla yosichu partha idhu avangalukkum benefit dhaan. ennai madhiri kandvanga call ellam illama avanga vandha velaya mattum parkalaam
June 30th, 2007 at 6:20 am
chakra,
As keerthi said, u r out of scope:)
June 30th, 2007 at 6:21 am
keerthi,
Last wekeend change of plan nu therinja udaney correct a call panni sonney la?
adhu panra varaikum this post is not for you
June 30th, 2007 at 2:52 pm
your observations are very true.
but there are two sides to this. I actually wrote a long comment (then realized I should just post it).
there are realistic and unrealistic expecations on both sides, partly because this is one of those things where no one sees the other’s situation in true light! nevertheless, you are right. Canceling an appointment without notification is a big no no!
July 1st, 2007 at 1:20 am
PK, I was very happy that I could meet you. Honestly, I wanted to spend a few more hours, but somehow that didn’t happen ! I can’t forget your Mom’s dinner !
I wanted to spend some more time with Keerthi, Vatsan. Also wanted to meet with Jeevan.
There is always a next time!
July 1st, 2007 at 7:29 pm
yen indha kovam?
inime naan india vandhaal jakradhaiya irukken..:)
July 2nd, 2007 at 1:43 am
sundar narayanan
i dont know i’m being fair or not. my point is, sonna eep up paanum ilena gam nu vandhutu poidanum. why vetti formality?
i know one friend of mine - he is also sundar. very cool guy.
ingai varumbodhu he will never send out unnecessary mails. he’ll come here and once he thinks he is free, he will call me, we will meet somewhere. or straightaway ‘machi indha dhadavai meet panna mudiyadhu’ nu solliduvaan…
if he is free he does not mind coming even to my office to see me.
mathabadi ipdi vettiya group mail podradhu, formaility ku meet panlaam nu solradhu ellam ellam totally unnecessary nu thonudhu..
July 2nd, 2007 at 1:44 am
NV sir,
Knowing you, i’m sure u wud’ve called/mailed jeevan to say yr sitn. i’m perfectly fine with that.
Onnume pannama, ooruku poittu,’I've reached safely’ nu group mail podravangalai kanda kaduppu ayduven..
July 2nd, 2007 at 1:46 am
subha,
nee samarthu!
July 2nd, 2007 at 1:28 pm
Hooh hooh.. is this post for me? or am I thinking too much.. ? Anyways, forgive me da.. no more itinerary emails to you..
July 4th, 2007 at 10:09 pm
I agree - if you can;t meet someone you shouldnt tell them ure coming or that you’ll call - ppl have lives - they can’t be cancelling their plans for you n then to find out later that u cant make it
or they should set a time n date n meet everyone at once
i think ppl can understand delays but not cancelling without notice - or courtesy to inform they cant make it - thats just ego
i tend to meet up with friends in diff states n countries this way - i do tell them i might be coming n if i can meet them ill call them - one reason i call to check before hand is to ensure theyre there and free to make plans n not obliged to cancel their plans for me
July 4th, 2007 at 11:37 pm
gopi,
freeya vidu da
visith,
I think you handled your last India trip and the bloggers meet @ mocha pretty well