usually the excuse is “oru dhadavai panrom brammaandama pannanum ( like shankar/aascar ravichandran films)

obviously not healthy

wow! seri vidu en kalyanathile idhula evlo pannalaam nu parkaren:)

My mom says all slokas have lotsa hidden meanings..No one tries to understand or bother about anything. I dont also care.

I doubt everything has a deeper ugly context..Sometimes it can also be not so intentionally good. Like arundathi pakarathu is probably for testing the girls eye sight..I have no idea.

There is so much pollution wastage….in every marriage..All my silk sarees are lying in godrej - all the carefully picked jewellery is sitting in the bank..So much rice was wasted..If only we try to direct all the wastage of money and donate or do something simple and wise..it will make sense..
atleast some of our junta.. would have complained..about something… My Mom Dad and in laws probably would have felt so relieved after it was all over..

Marry in a temple. Keep a simple reception. Have “nadaswara or local musician..” kutcheri.. Have some food catered so you atleast make sure you make some families can live. Pay wisely to the priest and ask him to do a small prayer in some good times for rain and for good harvest. Dont pollute. Dont waste printing invitations..Is all this possible?? Lets change all the customs and make our own that fits..

We got to start a web site -and charge lots of money for this simple marriage I was talking about. Then lots of our so called..elders will register and think it is right..If one of us say something no one will listen.

ahaa en kanavile ipdi mann alli potuteengale!!

I had this chillarai idea of making a coffee table book with whatever photographs i have and make some quick buck with that sorta content

But i am still not losing all hopes. “The name is rajanikanth’ bookaye makkal vangranga na why not another reckoner?? what say?

Anyway please let me know if you come across such reckoners

I am not advocating for janavasam or opposing it. I am suggesting for people who care (say, like you) its better if they know it from authentic sources than through hearsay.

Documenting stuffs like this will help to know the real reason for some practices at some point as the document itself evolves, if not immediately.

The idea is not to just mimic what was prevalent sometime back. By knowing the reasons, we can make adaptations for the times we live in,, see if these are still valid (for e.g marrying a person who is mentally unstable will not be advisable at all times.today or tomorrow… whereas marrying a divorcee or widow will not be as taboo in the next 10 years as it is now)

As you said the tradition may go. Who goes for Jaanavasam these days. Usually, the marriage tradition starts with a Jaanavasam and most of the marriages do not have this tradition. They have the reception the day before and the marriage the next day. When asked they say “Why stop the TRAFFIC”. What an answer?

precisely!
maybe people will look at registered marriage as an option:)