Comments on: Friends as co-workers http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/ Rombo nallavan Tue, 22 May 2012 21:49:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: ramyanisha http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/#comment-220256 ramyanisha Thu, 22 Dec 2011 23:28:07 +0000 http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/#comment-220256 @PK "Touch-wood" is all I have to say :) @BNB :)You are not alone there!!! @PK
“Touch-wood” is all I have to say :)

@BNB
:)You are not alone there!!!

]]> By: BNB http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/#comment-220113 BNB Thu, 22 Dec 2011 05:41:15 +0000 http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/#comment-220113 Prabhu: The example that I gave was non-IT accountants though they did work a lot in IT companies and I ended by saying "Office friendships = Rail Sneham". And the example you gave of your own father is non-IT probably. I completely agree that this is just human behaviour, but since we are up to our necks in this IT thing it seems much more prominent. I think you're right about cynicism increasing with age. That's why it's so difficult to spot beautiful old people. Eppayume kadu-kadu sidu-sidu'nnu dhaan mukkavasi perusugal kaanapaduginrana. And the ones that are more cheerful, are invariably more mentally developed primarily via non-family non-work related interests. ramyanisha: Thanks. These days I am starting to feel like a 'mental' due to unpopular opinions that I hold. Prabhu: The example that I gave was non-IT accountants though they did work a lot in IT companies and I ended by saying “Office friendships = Rail Sneham”. And the example you gave of your own father is non-IT probably. I completely agree that this is just human behaviour, but since we are up to our necks in this IT thing it seems much more prominent. I think you’re right about cynicism increasing with age. That’s why it’s so difficult to spot beautiful old people. Eppayume kadu-kadu sidu-sidu’nnu dhaan mukkavasi perusugal kaanapaduginrana. And the ones that are more cheerful, are invariably more mentally developed primarily via non-family non-work related interests.

ramyanisha: Thanks. These days I am starting to feel like a ‘mental’ due to unpopular opinions that I hold.

]]> By: prabukarthik http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/#comment-220020 prabukarthik Wed, 21 Dec 2011 15:05:05 +0000 http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/#comment-220020 Surya, sorry , missed your comment in moderation, somehow got it now. Seriously true! Surya, sorry , missed your comment in moderation, somehow got it now.
Seriously true!

]]> By: prabukarthik http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/#comment-220018 prabukarthik Wed, 21 Dec 2011 15:03:27 +0000 http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/#comment-220018 BNB, You have a fair point. There are some exceptions for me. But I am glad things go smooth at least till end of journey. Sila samayam we get into nasty 'biscuit kollayar Kai varisai' situations. But I doubt it's only the IT industry specialty. My father was in government service, worked in same city/ same dept for 25 years, yet when he passed away post retirement, hardly bothered. I theorize that as we get older, we turn more cynical, selfish and life gets more end goal focussed ( what is in it for me? ) BNB,

You have a fair point. There are some exceptions for me.
But I am glad things go smooth at least till end of journey. Sila samayam we get into nasty ‘biscuit kollayar Kai varisai’ situations.

But I doubt it’s only the IT industry specialty. My father was in government service, worked in same city/ same dept for 25 years, yet when he passed away post retirement, hardly bothered.

I theorize that as we get older, we turn more cynical, selfish and life gets more end goal focussed ( what is in it for me? )

]]> By: prabukarthik http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/#comment-220017 prabukarthik Wed, 21 Dec 2011 14:57:17 +0000 http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/#comment-220017 Ramya, I understand. Am I the norm (non work because we did not work together in a project? Or did we) or an exception? (work/ same office but still in touch) :) Ramya,

I understand. Am I the norm (non work because we did not work together in a project? Or did we) or an exception? (work/ same office but still in touch) :)

]]> By: ramyanisha http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/#comment-219967 ramyanisha Wed, 21 Dec 2011 07:49:51 +0000 http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/#comment-219967 I totally second BNB!!!! I can count the number of friends that continue from my past work. The only friendships that sustain through time are those that we forge outside of work...more so from school and college. I totally second BNB!!!! I can count the number of friends that continue from my past work. The only friendships that sustain through time are those that we forge outside of work…more so from school and college.

]]> By: PrabuKarthik http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/#comment-219843 PrabuKarthik Tue, 20 Dec 2011 15:44:56 +0000 http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/#comment-219843 LOL very interesting perspective :) LOL very interesting perspective :)

]]> By: BNB http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/#comment-219799 BNB Tue, 20 Dec 2011 08:54:30 +0000 http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/#comment-219799 I keep telling one of my friends that IT friendships with rare exceptions are for the most part like "Rail Sneham". More than middle managers or at least to an equal extent, it's colleagues who're the kavuthufiers (at least in software dev). I've never worked in any Indian group with genuinely friendly people; it's either (a) victims of the same kind grouping up against mgmt or another peer group. The victims want someone for shoulder support aka polambal support. or (b) fakesters -- politicians. It's very important to have a healthy non-IT circle of friends ... or one ends up becoming a city based country-bum. Instead of maadu kannu pottuchu, you will discussing real estate or some inconsequential IT manager. I'll end with a non-IT story of 2 kanakku pillais - they worked together for 15-20 yrs together with Mr.B faithfully following Mr.A to whichever company he went. A couple of years back Mr.A was instrumental in booting Mr.B out a company (true story) and Mr.B remains a mental wreck to this day and has lost all interest in finding a job. Office friendships = Rail Sneham. I keep telling one of my friends that IT friendships with rare exceptions are for the most part like “Rail Sneham”. More than middle managers or at least to an equal extent, it’s colleagues who’re the kavuthufiers (at least in software dev). I’ve never worked in any Indian group with genuinely friendly people; it’s either (a) victims of the same kind grouping up against mgmt or another peer group. The victims want someone for shoulder support aka polambal support. or (b) fakesters — politicians. It’s very important to have a healthy non-IT circle of friends … or one ends up becoming a city based country-bum. Instead of maadu kannu pottuchu, you will discussing real estate or some inconsequential IT manager. I’ll end with a non-IT story of 2 kanakku pillais - they worked together for 15-20 yrs together with Mr.B faithfully following Mr.A to whichever company he went. A couple of years back Mr.A was instrumental in booting Mr.B out a company (true story) and Mr.B remains a mental wreck to this day and has lost all interest in finding a job. Office friendships = Rail Sneham.

]]> By: Surya kannan http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/#comment-219311 Surya kannan Sat, 17 Dec 2011 03:43:44 +0000 http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/#comment-219311 Sometimes work and life is a long journey which has to be traveled alone. When the lonely voyager looks back, he is amazed at the distance covered by him like the chronicles of this blog. This video best illustrates the fact: http://youtu.be/g7NoREhqzAA Sometimes work and life is a long journey which has to be traveled alone. When the lonely voyager looks back, he is amazed at the distance covered by him like the chronicles of this blog.

This video best illustrates the fact: http://youtu.be/g7NoREhqzAA

]]> By: Gopinath Sundharam http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/#comment-219059 Gopinath Sundharam Thu, 15 Dec 2011 22:34:15 +0000 http://expertdabbler.com/2011/12/14/friends-to-co-workers/#comment-219059 :) :)

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